About a year ago, I was in a quest for how enthuastic minds for greatness and fulfilment don’t often get the necessary results. I had a strong believe that if I can get a feasibility work then, the answer would be met. This took me to one of the tallest building in Nigeria, a twenty six storey building in western part of the country. Cocoa house was said to have been built as far back as 1965. Merely peeping through the window at the 25th floor I saw millions of people trooping out with different zeals of making things out for the day. The funniest was the roads were busy, shops were opened, offices for businesses were all at alert but upon all these I guessed something was wrong, people were not winning and fulfilled.
As I was watching, some questions struck my mind “why is the world still not a haven? Why is result not tantamount to desires? This is more or less than why is a talented athletic dont finish well?
Two teams always meet in football match, one wins and the other loses. Either of them can perform better in the subsequent matches depending on what they link pain to and pleasure to, as these shape their destiny.
The secret of success is learning how to use pain and pleasure instead of having pain and pleasure use you. If you do that, you’re in control of your life . if you don’t, life controls you.
These two major words Pain and Pleasure. I call them Drives
What drives Donald Trump in his entire life? He said in his interview that he’s learned to achieve pleasure by having the largest and most expensive yachts, acquiring the most extravagant buildings, making the shrewdest deals. I guessed he linked his pleasure over things to extravagant materials and he kept on toiling to achieve that. What did he learn to link pain to? He said his ultimate pain in life is being second best at anything — he equates it with failure and his great drive to achieve came from his compulsion to avoid pain.
What will surely make the both teams win subsequent matches is how the teams simply use the drives. What the loser link pain of failure to and the winner link success of pleasure to.
The force controlling you now, if not careful it controls you for the rest of your life.
Everything you and I do, we do either out of our need to avoid pain or our desire to gain pleasure. Understanding and utilizing the forces of pain and pleasure will allow you once and for all to create the lasting changes and improvements you desire for yourself and those care about.
The race may not be won even when you start well not until when we understand the forces driving us and knowing vividly what we attach to the drives. Many attach drugs and alcoholic to pleasure and the goals vanish, many attach the zeal of not dieing in poverty to pleasure and succeed. Many attach much agony to pains and he tried avoiding the pains by wining.
What creates a hero, a heel, a criminal, a contributor, what determines the difference in human actions is a reason we attach to our drives. Everything we do, we do for a reason.